This originally appeared as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times: Dear Elisheva, I honestly never thought I would be writing a letter...

A local teacher once called me to talk about some frustrating feedback she had gotten at work. Apparently, a parent had called the...

Atara and Azriel are trying to plan a vacation. For the first time since they had kids, they have a chance to get away just the two of...

There's something I've learned in the course of both my work and my spiritual studies has made a profound difference in the way I view...

How do you decide when to start a family? How many kids to have? When to stop having kids? Even if we knew exactly how many kids we hoped...

This post is adapted from my weekly schmoozeletter. When I was a kid, many of our religious teachers were first and second generation...

As part of the intake process with new clients, one of the questions I always ask is: "Have you ever been to therapy before?" I like to...

(This post is adapted from a special edition schmoozeletter.) Last week, I posted what seems to have been a polarizing opinion on social...

Were you taught to believe that “divorce” is a curse word? That we don’t even say the “d” word? When I was a young, idealistic grad...

This will be a short, but I believe, very important post: One of the many awful results of inadequate, misinformed, or nonexistent sex...

When I was a kid, there was this corny joke that made the rounds in our Jewish schools and camps. It went something like this: Joker: I...

Ruth has been at war with her own body since middle school. She and her sisters reacted emotionally in different ways to the stress and...

Is it just me or does it feel like there are ads for coaching everywhere lately? Do you ever wonder what the difference is between...

Have you ever noticed that some people will swear that therapy totally changed their lives for the better, and others will say they’ve...

At the root of so many people’s questions, doubts, insecurities and fears, lies this niggling question: Am I normal? And it shows up in a...

(This was originally published in the Five Towns Jewish Times) When my oldest was two years old, he attended a half day playgroup. One...

It’s September, and children everywhere are yanking out their uniforms, knapsacks, paperwork, and supplies, packing up lunches and...

Trigger warning: This post deals with sensitive topics relating to sexual abuse trauma. Ho-kay. This is not really my lane. I don’t treat...

Do you want to work on your relationship in therapy, but have a partner who just doesn’t want to go? Well, you’re not alone. This is a...

I found that I am, indeed, quite privileged. I was raised by two loving, wise, imperfect, but dedicated parents. I was taught the value...

Trigger warning: this may be difficult to read for survivors of trauma. Proceed with caution: Gittel and Shuey have been married for...

Well- it seems like it's finally happening; after all these surreal days and weeks and months. But how do we prepare for a post-traumatic...

An Infidelity Dilemma The following story was shared with me by an acquaintance who: Is not a therapy client of mine Specifically asked...

What’s the deal with humans as numbers? In my years at college and grad school, I was a pretty good student, but I did fail one course:...

Are you struggling to maintain your sense of equilibrium while trying to navigate all the new demands and realities of the COVID19...

What if we covered a little less math, and instead teach kids what really counts. Less social studies, and more social skills. Less...

So we find ourselves suddenly spending more time at home with our families than we ever have before. Trying to juggle parenting,...

“These are the times that try men’s souls.” – Thomas Paine One of the many ripple effects of the current health crisis, is the challenge...

One of the many ripple effects of the coronavirus is that at this time when people need more emotional support than usual, mental health...

Please Note: This post contains explicit content, is for mature readers only, and may be triggering for survivors of trauma. Fay and her...

As many of you know, one of the most important aspects of the work we do with couples and individuals, is treating the results and...

Therapists: This One’s For You… Are you a therapist who is hoping or trying to build a private practice? Therapists tend to be people who...

Tzivi came home from preschool and told her mom that her Morah had gotten upset at her that day. “Morah said I used a bad word. But I...

Really glad you asked. It’s very painful for a man with a healthy libido to be in a marriage where he feels undesired and constantly...

A teacher in my neighborhood once called me to talk about some frustrating feedback she had gotten at work. Apparently, a parent had...

“My Principal Wouldn’t Let the Other Girls Talk to Me” A courageous letter from a girl who was deliberately ostracized, to the principal...

Find Your Horizon of Healthy Thinking: A Transformative Three-Step Therapy Method for Addressing Inner Negativity Based on the book with...

An acquaintance recently asked me to recommend a suitable marriage counselor for her. I gave her the names of some trusted colleagues but...

“Little kids, little problems, big kids, big problems. Just you wait!” warned the more experienced moms; their condescending tones...

n some ways, choosing a career path can be more confusing and overwhelming than ever before in human history. There are more options and...

Hi, folks. I’m going to deviate from my usual blogging style in today’s post. I generally open with a hypothetical or well-disguised...

Have you ever found that happiness sometimes brings fear? That often when we find, receive, or achieve something good, it’s almost like:...

Yesterday, I was supposed to be correcting the formatting work for the manuscript of my first and upcoming book. But I got bored, and...

Suicide has been getting a lot of attention in the news lately, due to some high profile cases. Shortly before that, the second season of...

Tzivi is a deeply devout 24 year old mother and wife. She prays twice daily, while raising her toddler and baby, and working 30 hours a...

It’s a magnificent summer night- 75 perfect degrees, and I’m on a delightful walk over a nearby bridge to the beach, with a dear friend...

Selecting a spouse is possibly the most momentous decision that we humans make over the course of a lifetime. We are choosing our...

“Do you think I need to be on medication?” I get this question often. A client comes in feeling down, sad, weepy, scared, stressed,...

Not feeling “in the mood”? You’re not the only one. So many women feel confused, frustrated, guilt-ridden, annoyed, or discouraged-...

Debbie slumped in her chair in a cloud of defeat. “I really do love my husband, and I think he’s handsome, too, but I’m just not a sexual...