How do I make friends as a grown up?
*This originally appeared in the Five Towns Jewish Times State of Mind column* Dear Elisheva, What I’m struggling with feels more...
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Elisheva Liss
- Nov 21, 2022
- 6 min
Influencer Anxiety
Tali is a mom blogger. She entertains her audience by chronicling the daily details of her regular family life on social media. Sometimes...
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Elisheva Liss
- Aug 29, 2022
- 3 min
Anxiety and Elul
Tami, a motivated college student, sought help to deal with her test taking anxiety. She describes her symptoms: “I just get so nervous...
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Elisheva Liss
- May 19, 2022
- 6 min
Relationship Uncertainty
*This originally appeared in the Five Towns Jewish Times State of Mind column* Dear Elisheva, I would imagine my problem is not unique,...
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Elisheva Liss
- Apr 7, 2022
- 3 min
She Wasn't Feeling Pleasure
*This post is an excerpt from my schmoozeletter email. Subscribe to it for free here: elishevaliss.com/newsletter * Once upon a time,...
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Elisheva Liss
- Mar 14, 2022
- 3 min
"Virtue Signaling" Re-examined
Lately, there has been a specific kind of backlash on social media against social media about social media, where people take to social...
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Elisheva Liss
- Sep 15, 2021
- 7 min
My Teen Discovered Pornography- What Should I Do??
This originally appeared as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times: Dear Elisheva, I honestly never thought I would be writing a letter...
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Elisheva Liss
- Aug 15, 2021
- 3 min
Hey, Teachers- Your Students Have Issues
A local teacher once called me to talk about some frustrating feedback she had gotten at work. Apparently, a parent had called the...
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Elisheva Liss
- Aug 7, 2021
- 4 min
Vacation Altercations
Atara and Azriel are trying to plan a vacation. For the first time since they had kids, they have a chance to get away just the two of...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jul 23, 2021
- 3 min
This One Thing Can Change Everything
There's something I've learned in the course of both my work and my spiritual studies has made a profound difference in the way I view...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jun 4, 2021
- 4 min
Fighting about Whether to Have a Baby
How do you decide when to start a family? How many kids to have? When to stop having kids? Even if we knew exactly how many kids we hoped...
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Elisheva Liss
- May 21, 2021
- 3 min
Anti-semitism on the Rise
This post is adapted from my weekly schmoozeletter. When I was a kid, many of our religious teachers were first and second generation...
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Elisheva Liss
- May 14, 2021
- 3 min
PSA: You're Allowed to Break Up with your Therapist
As part of the intake process with new clients, one of the questions I always ask is: "Have you ever been to therapy before?" I like to...
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Elisheva Liss
- Apr 28, 2021
- 6 min
Wives, Please Don't Surrender
(This post is adapted from a special edition schmoozeletter.) Last week, I posted what seems to have been a polarizing opinion on social...
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Elisheva Liss
- Apr 21, 2021
- 2 min
Why Saying: "Divorce is not an Option" Can Actually Hurt Marriages
Were you taught to believe that “divorce” is a curse word? That we don’t even say the “d” word? When I was a young, idealistic grad...
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Elisheva Liss
- Apr 6, 2021
- 2 min
Sex Is NOT Supposed to Hurt!
This will be a short, but I believe, very important post: One of the many awful results of inadequate, misinformed, or nonexistent sex...
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Elisheva Liss
- Dec 31, 2020
- 4 min
The Covid Vaccine and Fearing the Unknown
When I was a kid, there was this corny joke that made the rounds in our Jewish schools and camps. It went something like this: Joker: I...
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Elisheva Liss
- Dec 22, 2020
- 3 min
"I Wear my Issues on my Body"
Ruth has been at war with her own body since middle school. She and her sisters reacted emotionally in different ways to the stress and...
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Elisheva Liss
- Dec 9, 2020
- 5 min
What's the Difference Between a Therapist and a Coach?
Is it just me or does it feel like there are ads for coaching everywhere lately? Do you ever wonder what the difference is between...
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Elisheva Liss
- Dec 5, 2020
- 3 min
Why Do Some People "Do Better" in Therapy Than Others? 7 Factors Satisfied Therapy Clients Share
Have you ever noticed that some people will swear that therapy totally changed their lives for the better, and others will say they’ve...
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Elisheva Liss
- Nov 28, 2020
- 3 min
"Am I Normal?"
At the root of so many people’s questions, doubts, insecurities and fears, lies this niggling question: Am I normal? And it shows up in a...
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Elisheva Liss
- Oct 16, 2020
- 5 min
Two Feelings: A Covid Perspective
(This was originally published in the Five Towns Jewish Times) When my oldest was two years old, he attended a half day playgroup. One...
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Elisheva Liss
- Sep 9, 2020
- 3 min
Coping with Back to School Season Overwhelm
It’s September, and children everywhere are yanking out their uniforms, knapsacks, paperwork, and supplies, packing up lunches and...
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Elisheva Liss
- Aug 16, 2020
- 4 min
Your Body May Have Responded to the Abuse, BUT That Doesn’t Mean You Wanted It
Trigger warning: This post deals with sensitive topics relating to sexual abuse trauma. Ho-kay. This is not really my lane. I don’t treat...
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Elisheva Liss
- Aug 11, 2020
- 4 min
How Do I Get My Partner to Come to Therapy?
Do you want to work on your relationship in therapy, but have a partner who just doesn’t want to go? Well, you’re not alone. This is a...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jul 29, 2020
- 2 min
I Checked My Privilege. Here's What I Found:
I found that I am, indeed, quite privileged. I was raised by two loving, wise, imperfect, but dedicated parents. I was taught the value...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jul 3, 2020
- 4 min
“I Used to Rape My Wife”
Trigger warning: this may be difficult to read for survivors of trauma. Proceed with caution: Gittel and Shuey have been married for...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jun 7, 2020
- 4 min
Preparing to Re-Open a Post Trauma World
Well- it seems like it's finally happening; after all these surreal days and weeks and months. But how do we prepare for a post-traumatic...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jun 3, 2020
- 5 min
What If You Cheated on Your Spouse?
An Infidelity Dilemma The following story was shared with me by an acquaintance who: Is not a therapy client of mine Specifically asked...
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Elisheva Liss
- May 20, 2020
- 4 min
I Don't Want to Be Statistic
What’s the deal with humans as numbers? In my years at college and grad school, I was a pretty good student, but I did fail one course:...
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Elisheva Liss
- May 14, 2020
- 5 min
Are You Starting To Lose It
Are you struggling to maintain your sense of equilibrium while trying to navigate all the new demands and realities of the COVID19...
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Elisheva Liss
- Mar 22, 2020
- 1 min
What to Teach Kids Right Now (And Always)
What if we covered a little less math, and instead teach kids what really counts. Less social studies, and more social skills. Less...
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Elisheva Liss
- Mar 21, 2020
- 3 min
How to Run Family Meetings
So we find ourselves suddenly spending more time at home with our families than we ever have before. Trying to juggle parenting,...
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Elisheva Liss
- Mar 19, 2020
- 3 min
Struggling with "G-d" In Turbulent Times
“These are the times that try men’s souls.” – Thomas Paine One of the many ripple effects of the current health crisis, is the challenge...
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Elisheva Liss
- Mar 15, 2020
- 2 min
The Benefits of Virtual Therapy Sessions
One of the many ripple effects of the coronavirus is that at this time when people need more emotional support than usual, mental health...
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Elisheva Liss
- Feb 3, 2020
- 3 min
Totally Grossed Out By Private Parts
Please Note: This post contains explicit content, is for mature readers only, and may be triggering for survivors of trauma. Fay and her...
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Elisheva Liss
- Feb 2, 2020
- 4 min
The Problem with Religious Sexuality Education
As many of you know, one of the most important aspects of the work we do with couples and individuals, is treating the results and...
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Elisheva Liss
- Dec 29, 2019
- 3 min
Calling New Private Practice Therapists and Hopefuls
Therapists: This One’s For You… Are you a therapist who is hoping or trying to build a private practice? Therapists tend to be people who...
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Elisheva Liss
- Dec 5, 2019
- 4 min
Why It's Important to Teach Kids Accurate Names of Body Parts
Tzivi came home from preschool and told her mom that her Morah had gotten upset at her that day. “Morah said I used a bad word. But I...
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Elisheva Liss
- Oct 15, 2019
- 6 min
My Wife Hates Sex- What Should I Do?
Really glad you asked. It’s very painful for a man with a healthy libido to be in a marriage where he feels undesired and constantly...
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Elisheva Liss
- Aug 28, 2019
- 3 min
Hey Teachers Your Students Have Issues
A teacher in my neighborhood once called me to talk about some frustrating feedback she had gotten at work. Apparently, a parent had...
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Elisheva Liss
- May 21, 2019
- 7 min
"My High School Principal Nearly Destroyed Me"
“My Principal Wouldn’t Let the Other Girls Talk to Me” A courageous letter from a girl who was deliberately ostracized, to the principal...
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Elisheva Liss
- May 12, 2019
- 5 min
Find Your Horizon Of Healthy Thinking: A Powerful Narrative Therapy Technique
Find Your Horizon of Healthy Thinking: A Transformative Three-Step Therapy Method for Addressing Inner Negativity Based on the book with...
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Elisheva Liss
- May 8, 2019
- 7 min
Is Good Therapy Only For the Rich?
An acquaintance recently asked me to recommend a suitable marriage counselor for her. I gave her the names of some trusted colleagues but...
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Elisheva Liss
- Apr 14, 2019
- 4 min
Hang In There Young Mamas, It Gets Easier
“Little kids, little problems, big kids, big problems. Just you wait!” warned the more experienced moms; their condescending tones...
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Elisheva Liss
- Apr 1, 2019
- 9 min
Choose A Career (Including My Own Story of How I Became a Therapist
n some ways, choosing a career path can be more confusing and overwhelming than ever before in human history. There are more options and...
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Elisheva Liss
- Oct 30, 2018
- 5 min
Humbled and Slightly Caffeinated Reflections of a Newly-Minted Writer
Hi, folks. I’m going to deviate from my usual blogging style in today’s post. I generally open with a hypothetical or well-disguised...
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Elisheva Liss
- Sep 26, 2018
- 6 min
Confronting Happiness - Anxiety
Have you ever found that happiness sometimes brings fear? That often when we find, receive, or achieve something good, it’s almost like:...
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Elisheva Liss
- Aug 16, 2018
- 4 min
Embarrassing Confessions of An Almost Author
Yesterday, I was supposed to be correcting the formatting work for the manuscript of my first and upcoming book. But I got bored, and...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jun 11, 2018
- 5 min
The Suicide Trend: When Great People Want to Die
Suicide has been getting a lot of attention in the news lately, due to some high profile cases. Shortly before that, the second season of...
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