"What is even the point?"
*Some of this is adapted from a schmoozeletter email from 2021 Have you been feeling especially down for the last 420 days? For many...
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Elisheva Liss
Sep 253 min read
"I want to go home"
*This was originally written in 2022 When my now adult daughter was a tiny, adorable preschooler ( which btw was about 10 minutes ago...
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Elisheva Liss
Sep 193 min read
Me and my big mouth
*This was originally published as a schmoozeletter email in 2022 Decades ago when I was in high school, we had a school-wide assembly...
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Elisheva Liss
Aug 293 min read
Why do people hurt themselves?
One of the most scary symptoms faced by the loved ones of some who suffer from psychological distress is the phenomenon of self-harming...
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Elisheva Liss
Oct 11, 20234 min read
"I Believe with Imperfect Faith"
What do you say when there’s nothing to say? The email request from the editor to write about the only thing on most of our minds came in...
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Elisheva Liss
Oct 11, 20234 min read
Some Bad Parts
What a jarring wake up call. Last week, I was reading the book “No Bad Parts” by Dr. Richard Schwartz. I chose it intentionally for this...
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Elisheva Liss
Sep 6, 20236 min read
What if you can't just "forgive and forget?"
Dear Elisheva, Every year around this time I struggle with the idea of asking and granting what feels like lip-service forgiveness. As...
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Elisheva Liss
Aug 9, 20236 min read
Can my daughter be my best friend?
Dear Elisheva, I’m a 43 year old wife, mom, and professional. I have a happy marriage, amazing kids, and a satisfying job. My oldest...
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Elisheva Liss
Jul 10, 20236 min read
Will my kids be spoiled?
Dear Elisheva, My husband and I were raised very differently, in a lot of ways. One way that comes up deeply for us, in our parenting, is...
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Elisheva Liss
Jun 15, 20232 min read
The Nation that Wanted to Die
“We wish we had died! We wish we had died!” Cry out the people who personally experienced miraculous salvation. “If only we had died in...
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Elisheva Liss
Jun 14, 20236 min read
Disappointed in a Spouse
*This originally appeared as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times" Dear Elisheva, I’m struggling with something affecting my marriage,...
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Elisheva Liss
Feb 7, 20237 min read
"How can I motivate my spouse to get fit?"
*This first appeared as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times* Dear Elisheva, This message probably makes me sounds like a shallow,...
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Elisheva Liss
Jan 4, 20237 min read
How do I make friends as a grown up?
*This originally appeared in the Five Towns Jewish Times State of Mind column* Dear Elisheva, What I’m struggling with feels more...
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Elisheva Liss
Nov 21, 20226 min read
Influencer Anxiety
Tali is a mom blogger. She entertains her audience by chronicling the daily details of her regular family life on social media. Sometimes...
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Elisheva Liss
Aug 29, 20223 min read
Anxiety and Elul
Tami, a motivated college student, sought help to deal with her test taking anxiety. She describes her symptoms: “I just get so nervous...
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Elisheva Liss
May 19, 20226 min read
Relationship Uncertainty
*This originally appeared in the Five Towns Jewish Times State of Mind column* Dear Elisheva, I would imagine my problem is not unique,...
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Elisheva Liss
Apr 7, 20223 min read
She Wasn't Feeling Pleasure
Once upon a time, there was a young, sincere couple, who married and loved each other. But they had one problem: Even after a few years...
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Elisheva Liss
Mar 14, 20223 min read
"Virtue Signaling" Re-examined
Lately, there has been a specific kind of backlash on social media against social media about social media, where people take to social...
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Elisheva Liss
Dec 14, 20213 min read
This One Tip Totally Transformed my Therapy Practice
A Game-Changing, Time-Saving Tip for Service Providers: I kept meaning to share this in a video, but lately I’ve lost my taste for making...
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Elisheva Liss
Sep 15, 20217 min read
My Teen Discovered Pornography- What Should I Do??
This originally appeared as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times: Dear Elisheva, I honestly never thought I would be writing a letter...
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Elisheva Liss
Aug 15, 20213 min read
Hey, Teachers- Your Students Have Issues
A local teacher once called me to talk about some frustrating feedback she had gotten at work. Apparently, a parent had called the...
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Elisheva Liss
Aug 7, 20214 min read
Vacation Altercations
Atara and Azriel are trying to plan a vacation. For the first time since they had kids, they have a chance to get away just the two of...
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Elisheva Liss
Jul 23, 20213 min read
This One Thing Can Change Everything
There's something I've learned in the course of both my work and my spiritual studies has made a profound difference in the way I view...
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Elisheva Liss
Jun 4, 20214 min read
Fighting about Whether to Have a Baby
How do you decide when to start a family? How many kids to have? When to stop having kids? Even if we knew exactly how many kids we hoped...
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Elisheva Liss
May 21, 20213 min read
Anti-semitism on the Rise
This post is adapted from my weekly schmoozeletter. When I was a kid, many of our religious teachers were first and second generation...
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Elisheva Liss
May 14, 20213 min read
PSA: You're Allowed to Break Up with your Therapist
As part of the intake process with new clients, one of the questions I always ask is: "Have you ever been to therapy before?" I like to...
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Elisheva Liss
Apr 28, 20216 min read
Wives, Please Don't Surrender
(This post is adapted from a special edition schmoozeletter.) Last week, I posted what seems to have been a polarizing opinion on social...
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Elisheva Liss
Apr 21, 20212 min read
Why Saying: "Divorce is not an Option" Can Actually Hurt Marriages
Were you taught to believe that “divorce” is a curse word? That we don’t even say the “d” word? When I was a young, idealistic grad...
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Elisheva Liss
Apr 6, 20212 min read
Sex Is NOT Supposed to Hurt!
This will be a short, but I believe, very important post: One of the many awful results of inadequate, misinformed, or nonexistent sex...
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Elisheva Liss
Dec 31, 20204 min read
The Covid Vaccine and Fearing the Unknown
When I was a kid, there was this corny joke that made the rounds in our Jewish schools and camps. It went something like this: Joker: I...
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Elisheva Liss
Dec 22, 20203 min read
"I Wear my Issues on my Body"
Ruth has been at war with her own body since middle school. She and her sisters reacted emotionally in different ways to the stress and...
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Elisheva Liss
Dec 9, 20205 min read
What's the Difference Between a Therapist and a Coach?
Is it just me or does it feel like there are ads for coaching everywhere lately? Do you ever wonder what the difference is between...
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Elisheva Liss
Dec 5, 20203 min read
Why Do Some People "Do Better" in Therapy Than Others? 7 Factors Satisfied Therapy Clients Share
Have you ever noticed that some people will swear that therapy totally changed their lives for the better, and others will say they’ve...
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Elisheva Liss
Nov 28, 20203 min read
"Am I Normal?"
At the root of so many people’s questions, doubts, insecurities and fears, lies this niggling question: Am I normal? And it shows up in a...
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Elisheva Liss
Oct 16, 20205 min read
Two Feelings: A Covid Perspective
(This was originally published in the Five Towns Jewish Times) When my oldest was two years old, he attended a half day playgroup. One...
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Elisheva Liss
Sep 9, 20203 min read
Coping with Back to School Season Overwhelm
It’s September, and children everywhere are yanking out their uniforms, knapsacks, paperwork, and supplies, packing up lunches and...
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Elisheva Liss
Aug 16, 20204 min read
Your Body May Have Responded to the Abuse, BUT That Doesn’t Mean You Wanted It
Trigger warning: This post deals with sensitive topics relating to sexual abuse trauma. Ho-kay. This is not really my lane. I don’t treat...
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Elisheva Liss
Aug 11, 20204 min read
How Do I Get My Partner to Come to Therapy?
Do you want to work on your relationship in therapy, but have a partner who just doesn’t want to go? Well, you’re not alone. This is a...
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Elisheva Liss
Jul 29, 20202 min read
I Checked My Privilege. Here's What I Found:
I found that I am, indeed, quite privileged. I was raised by two loving, wise, imperfect, but dedicated parents. I was taught the value...
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Elisheva Liss
Jul 3, 20204 min read
“I Used to Rape My Wife”
Trigger warning: this may be difficult to read for survivors of trauma. Proceed with caution: Gittel and Shuey have been married for...
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Elisheva Liss
Jun 7, 20204 min read
Preparing to Re-Open a Post Trauma World
Well- it seems like it's finally happening; after all these surreal days and weeks and months. But how do we prepare for a post-traumatic...
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Elisheva Liss
Jun 3, 20205 min read
What If You Cheated on Your Spouse?
An Infidelity Dilemma The following story was shared with me by an acquaintance who: Is not a therapy client of mine Specifically asked...
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Elisheva Liss
May 20, 20204 min read
I Don't Want to Be Statistic
What’s the deal with humans as numbers? In my years at college and grad school, I was a pretty good student, but I did fail one course:...
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Elisheva Liss
May 14, 20205 min read
Are You Starting To Lose It
Are you struggling to maintain your sense of equilibrium while trying to navigate all the new demands and realities of the COVID19...
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Elisheva Liss
Mar 22, 20201 min read
What to Teach Kids Right Now (And Always)
What if we covered a little less math, and instead teach kids what really counts. Less social studies, and more social skills. Less...
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Elisheva Liss
Mar 21, 20203 min read
How to Run Family Meetings
So we find ourselves suddenly spending more time at home with our families than we ever have before. Trying to juggle parenting,...
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Elisheva Liss
Mar 19, 20203 min read
Struggling with "G-d" In Turbulent Times
“These are the times that try men’s souls.” – Thomas Paine One of the many ripple effects of the current health crisis, is the challenge...
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Elisheva Liss
Mar 15, 20202 min read
The Benefits of Virtual Therapy Sessions
One of the many ripple effects of the coronavirus is that at this time when people need more emotional support than usual, mental health...
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Elisheva Liss
Feb 3, 20203 min read
Totally Grossed Out By Private Parts
Please Note: This post contains explicit content, is for mature readers only, and may be triggering for survivors of trauma. Fay and her...
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Elisheva Liss
Feb 2, 20204 min read
The Problem with Religious Sexuality Education
As many of you know, one of the most important aspects of the work we do with couples and individuals, is treating the results and...
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