*This appeared as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times* Dear Elisheva, I’m feeling very upset about something, and I don’t have clarity about how to proceed. My daughter is in 12th grade, and she and her friends have applied to colleges and seminaries and are now making their decisions about where to go after high school. She’s a pretty good student- mostly As and Bs, and an all-around good kid. She participates in extracurricular activities, volunteers as per school requi

Lately, there has been a specific kind of backlash on social media against social media about social media, where people take to social...

Trigger warning: this post discusses sexual trauma Zeesy, a 19-year-old newlywed, was referred for intense erotophobia- a fear of ...

In my work as a therapist serving an almost completely religiously affiliated population, one issue that arises very, very often, is the...

This post originally appeared as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times: Dear Elisheva, We think we may have an issue with our son and...

*Trigger warning, sexual abuse described:* Yitzi’s parents really thought they’d taught him enough: “No one is allowed to touch you in...

This originally appeared as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times. Dear Elisheva, I can’t decide whether my problem is marital or...

A Game-Changing, Time-Saving Tip for Service Providers: I kept meaning to share this in a video, but lately I’ve lost my taste for making...

*This was originally in a schmoozeletter email* Today I was thinking I'll share an analogy I often give couples in therapy. Imagine that...

This post is an excerpt from the schmoozeletter of October, 2020. You can subscribe to these here: elishevaliss.com/newsletter Do you...

“I think it was the earrings that were the final straw for me.” The young woman is explaining to me how she went from being a...

Do you have weird feelings about money? A lot of people do. Contrary to popular belief, money is not inherently unspiritual. (Being...

This originally appeared as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times: Dear Elisheva, I honestly never thought I would be writing a letter like this. I’m very upset and embarrassed but I know this is anonymous and I really just need to know what to do. A little background: We are a religious family, and we take our parenting very seriously. We put a lot of thought into where we send our kids to school, based on our values and the kinds of families who send there. We’re careful

Adina’s eyes darted around my office, then closed and watered with unsuccessfully repressed shame. She was trying to explain the freshly...

This is a Dear Therapist column, which originally appeared in the Five Towns Jewish Times: Dear Elisheva, This time of year is always...

A local teacher once called me to talk about some frustrating feedback she had gotten at work. Apparently, a parent had called the...

Atara and Azriel are trying to plan a vacation. For the first time since they had kids, they have a chance to get away just the two of...

There's something I've learned in the course of both my work and my spiritual studies has made a profound difference in the way I view...

“Do you know what it’s like to live with someone for six years and not even once have them initiate physical intimacy?” he asks. “Well,...

How do you decide when to start a family? How many kids to have? When to stop having kids? Even if we knew exactly how many kids we hoped...