“What's the biggest struggle you see in couples today?” This is one of the most common questions couples therapists hear, and there’s...

Trigger warning: this post will be more explicit than usual. (It's excerpted from one of the schmoozeletter emails) Often, when working...

TW: This post references sexual trauma. “What’s the most common problem you see in couples?” someone asked me this weekend. Therapists...

Let’s consider this changed-to-protect-writer’s-identity question, as a springboard to address some issues that arise for couples around...

The Unconsummated Couple They present for therapy with so much shame, sometimes blaming themselves, sometimes each other, or just one of...

This document is meant to be used by husbands-to-be, in both an educational capacity and as a springboard for spousal communication. It’s...

Chani was 20 years old when she presented for therapy. The official referral was “anxiety about dating,” but when she began to share, it...

*This post was originally published as a State of Mind column in the Five Towns Jewish Times* Dear Elisheva, My family is in a...

It usually happens some time in the middle of a session. We’ll be discussing a couple’s intimate life, and I can see the consternation...

The following is a conversation that comes up a lot with my couples in therapy: Me: So what would you say are the challenges you're...

Once upon a time, there was a young, sincere couple, who married and loved each other. But they had one problem: Even after a few years...

Trigger warning: this post discusses sexual trauma Zeesy, a 19-year-old newlywed, was referred for intense erotophobia- a fear of ...

“Do you know what it’s like to live with someone for six years and not even once have them initiate physical intimacy?” he asks. “Well,...

This will be a short, but I believe, very important post: One of the many awful results of inadequate, misinformed, or nonexistent sex...

Trigger Warning: This post contains sensitive content about child sexual abuse. *Like all vignettes featured in this blog, it reflects...

Some men say it with embarrassment, others with indignance or frustration, and still others in defeat: “I’m not trying to be demanding or...

I really, really like pizza- it’s probably my favorite meal. In my neighborhood we have about half a dozen different pizza shops. My...

Have you ever wondered how often people have sex? (I purposely used the nebulously awkward euphemism “be intimate” in the title because...

For so many couples, this is their million-dollar question. Hope for their relationship, for their future, hinges on the answer....

Trigger warning: This post deals with sensitive topics relating to sexual abuse trauma. Ho-kay. This is not really my lane. I don’t treat...