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Trigger warning: this post discusses sexual trauma Zeesy, a 19-year-old newlywed, was referred for intense erotophobia- a fear of ...

“Do you know what it’s like to live with someone for six years and not even once have them initiate physical intimacy?” he asks. “Well,...

This will be a short, but I believe, very important post: One of the many awful results of inadequate, misinformed, or nonexistent sex...

Trigger Warning: This post contains sensitive content about child sexual abuse. *Like all vignettes featured in this blog, it reflects...

Some men say it with embarrassment, others with indignance or frustration, and still others in defeat: “I’m not trying to be demanding or...

I really, really like pizza- it’s probably my favorite meal. In my neighborhood we have about half a dozen different pizza shops. My...

Have you ever wondered how often people have sex? (I purposely used the nebulously awkward euphemism “be intimate” in the title because...

For so many couples, this is their million-dollar question. Hope for their relationship, for their future, hinges on the answer....

Trigger warning: This post deals with sensitive topics relating to sexual abuse trauma. Ho-kay. This is not really my lane. I don’t treat...

Trigger warning: this may be difficult to read for survivors of trauma. Proceed with caution: Gittel and Shuey have been married for...

An Infidelity Dilemma The following story was shared with me by an acquaintance who: Is not a therapy client of mine Specifically asked...

The phone rang, and a shy-sounding young woman introduced herself. “Hi. I’m not really sure if I need therapy. Could I tell you my issue,...

More Shovevim thoughts on enhancing marital intimacy: Something I have struggled with for a few years now is wanting to create and share...

Please Note: This post contains explicit content, is for mature readers only, and may be triggering for survivors of trauma. Fay and her...

As many of you know, one of the most important aspects of the work we do with couples and individuals, is treating the results and...

Tzivi came home from preschool and told her mom that her Morah had gotten upset at her that day. “Morah said I used a bad word. But I...

Really glad you asked. It’s very painful for a man with a healthy libido to be in a marriage where he feels undesired and constantly...

You know that feeling where you finish a conversation, and then a little later, mentally review it and wish you could go back and change...