What do couples fight about most?
“What's the biggest struggle you see in couples today?” This is one of the most common questions couples therapists hear, and there’s...
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Elisheva Liss
- Sep 27, 2023
- 4 min
Men are sometimes surprised to learn this about pleasuring
Trigger warning: this post will be more explicit than usual. (It's excerpted from one of the schmoozeletter emails) Often, when working...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jul 20, 2023
- 5 min
How can someone go from hating sexual activity to enjoying it?
TW: This post references sexual trauma. “What’s the most common problem you see in couples?” someone asked me this weekend. Therapists...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jul 5, 2023
- 9 min
Is Using P-rnography Considered Cheating on a Partner?
Let’s consider this changed-to-protect-writer’s-identity question, as a springboard to address some issues that arise for couples around...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jul 2, 2023
- 4 min
The Unconsummated Couple
The Unconsummated Couple They present for therapy with so much shame, sometimes blaming themselves, sometimes each other, or just one of...
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Elisheva Liss
- Feb 18, 2023
- 6 min
What I Wish New Husbands Could Say to their New Brides
This document is meant to be used by husbands-to-be, in both an educational capacity and as a springboard for spousal communication. It’s...
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Elisheva Liss
- Dec 13, 2022
- 9 min
"Am I a Bais Yaakov Lesbian?"
Chani was 20 years old when she presented for therapy. The official referral was “anxiety about dating,” but when she began to share, it...
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Elisheva Liss
- Aug 28, 2022
- 7 min
"My daughter blames me for her marriage problems"
*This post was originally published as a State of Mind column in the Five Towns Jewish Times* Dear Elisheva, My family is in a...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jul 26, 2022
- 4 min
"What's the Point of Sex Anyway?"
It usually happens some time in the middle of a session. We’ll be discussing a couple’s intimate life, and I can see the consternation...
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Elisheva Liss
- May 8, 2022
- 2 min
An Intimacy Dilemma
The following is a conversation that comes up a lot with my couples in therapy: Me: So what would you say are the challenges you're...
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Elisheva Liss
- Apr 7, 2022
- 3 min
She Wasn't Feeling Pleasure
Once upon a time, there was a young, sincere couple, who married and loved each other. But they had one problem: Even after a few years...
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Elisheva Liss
- Feb 27, 2022
- 5 min
A Different Kind of Sexual Trauma
Trigger warning: this post discusses sexual trauma Zeesy, a 19-year-old newlywed, was referred for intense erotophobia- a fear of ...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jul 3, 2021
- 3 min
"If You Really Loved Me...
“Do you know what it’s like to live with someone for six years and not even once have them initiate physical intimacy?” he asks. “Well,...
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Elisheva Liss
- Apr 6, 2021
- 2 min
Sex Is NOT Supposed to Hurt!
This will be a short, but I believe, very important post: One of the many awful results of inadequate, misinformed, or nonexistent sex...
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Elisheva Liss
- Mar 14, 2021
- 3 min
"I Was Molested by my Brother but neither of us Knew It."
Trigger Warning: This post contains sensitive content about child sexual abuse. *Like all vignettes featured in this blog, it reflects...
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Elisheva Liss
- Mar 8, 2021
- 5 min
“Why Won’t My Wife Dress Up for Me?”
Some men say it with embarrassment, others with indignance or frustration, and still others in defeat: “I’m not trying to be demanding or...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jan 16, 2021
- 3 min
Sex and Pizza
I really, really like pizza- it’s probably my favorite meal. In my neighborhood we have about half a dozen different pizza shops. My...
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Elisheva Liss
- Dec 2, 2020
- 2 min
"How Often Are You Supposed to 'Be Intimate'?"
Have you ever wondered how often people have sex? (I purposely used the nebulously awkward euphemism “be intimate” in the title because...
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Elisheva Liss
- Oct 29, 2020
- 3 min
Is it Possible to Create Attraction Where There is None?
For so many couples, this is their million-dollar question. Hope for their relationship, for their future, hinges on the answer....
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Elisheva Liss
- Aug 16, 2020
- 4 min
Your Body May Have Responded to the Abuse, BUT That Doesn’t Mean You Wanted It
Trigger warning: This post deals with sensitive topics relating to sexual abuse trauma. Ho-kay. This is not really my lane. I don’t treat...
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