What I Wish New Husbands Could Say to their New Brides
This document is meant to be used by husbands-to-be, in both an educational capacity and as a springboard for spousal communication. It’s...
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Elisheva Liss
- Dec 13, 2022
- 9 min
"Am I a Bais Yaakov Lesbian?"
Chani was 20 years old when she presented for therapy. The official referral was “anxiety about dating,” but when she began to share, it...
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Elisheva Liss
- Aug 28, 2022
- 7 min
"My daughter blames me for her marriage problems"
*This post was originally published as a State of Mind column in the Five Towns Jewish Times* Dear Elisheva, My family is in a...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jul 26, 2022
- 4 min
"What's the Point of Sex Anyway?"
It usually happens some time in the middle of a session. We’ll be discussing a couple’s intimate life, and I can see the consternation...
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Elisheva Liss
- May 8, 2022
- 2 min
An Intimacy Dilemma
The following is a conversation that comes up a lot with my couples in therapy: Me: So what would you say are the challenges you're...
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Elisheva Liss
- Apr 7, 2022
- 3 min
She Wasn't Feeling Pleasure
Once upon a time, there was a young, sincere couple, who married and loved each other. But they had one problem: Even after a few years...
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Elisheva Liss
- Feb 27, 2022
- 5 min
A Different Kind of Sexual Trauma
Trigger warning: this post discusses sexual trauma Zeesy, a 19-year-old newlywed, was referred for intense erotophobia- a fear of ...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jul 3, 2021
- 3 min
"If You Really Loved Me...
“Do you know what it’s like to live with someone for six years and not even once have them initiate physical intimacy?” he asks. “Well,...
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Elisheva Liss
- Apr 6, 2021
- 2 min
Sex Is NOT Supposed to Hurt!
This will be a short, but I believe, very important post: One of the many awful results of inadequate, misinformed, or nonexistent sex...
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Elisheva Liss
- Mar 14, 2021
- 3 min
"I Was Molested by my Brother but neither of us Knew It."
Trigger Warning: This post contains sensitive content about child sexual abuse. *Like all vignettes featured in this blog, it reflects...
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Elisheva Liss
- Mar 8, 2021
- 5 min
“Why Won’t My Wife Dress Up for Me?”
Some men say it with embarrassment, others with indignance or frustration, and still others in defeat: “I’m not trying to be demanding or...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jan 16, 2021
- 3 min
Sex and Pizza
I really, really like pizza- it’s probably my favorite meal. In my neighborhood we have about half a dozen different pizza shops. My...
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Elisheva Liss
- Dec 2, 2020
- 2 min
"How Often Are You Supposed to 'Be Intimate'?"
Have you ever wondered how often people have sex? (I purposely used the nebulously awkward euphemism “be intimate” in the title because...
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Elisheva Liss
- Oct 29, 2020
- 3 min
Is it Possible to Create Attraction Where There is None?
For so many couples, this is their million-dollar question. Hope for their relationship, for their future, hinges on the answer....
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Elisheva Liss
- Aug 16, 2020
- 4 min
Your Body May Have Responded to the Abuse, BUT That Doesn’t Mean You Wanted It
Trigger warning: This post deals with sensitive topics relating to sexual abuse trauma. Ho-kay. This is not really my lane. I don’t treat...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jul 3, 2020
- 4 min
“I Used to Rape My Wife”
Trigger warning: this may be difficult to read for survivors of trauma. Proceed with caution: Gittel and Shuey have been married for...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jun 4, 2020
- 5 min
What If You Cheated on Your Spouse?
An Infidelity Dilemma The following story was shared with me by an acquaintance who: Is not a therapy client of mine Specifically asked...
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Elisheva Liss
- May 7, 2020
- 4 min
What If I Can't Climax
The phone rang, and a shy-sounding young woman introduced herself. “Hi. I’m not really sure if I need therapy. Could I tell you my issue,...
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Elisheva Liss
- Feb 9, 2020
- 3 min
Better Prep For Wedding Night and Beyond
More Shovevim thoughts on enhancing marital intimacy: Something I have struggled with for a few years now is wanting to create and share...
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Elisheva Liss
- Feb 3, 2020
- 3 min
Totally Grossed Out By Private Parts
Please Note: This post contains explicit content, is for mature readers only, and may be triggering for survivors of trauma. Fay and her...
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