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My Wife Hates Sex- What Should I Do?
Really glad you asked. It’s very painful for a man with a healthy libido to be in a marriage where he feels undesired and constantly...

Elisheva Liss
Oct 15, 20196 min read


Ballad of the Secretly Burnt Out Kollel Wife
“I’m so happy and grateful- his Rebbe said he’s a meyuchad, a lamdan, really something special.” “I just want to do whatever is best for...

Elisheva Liss
Sep 17, 20193 min read


Consent For Touch - Even With A Spouse
You know that feeling where you finish a conversation, and then a little later, mentally review it and wish you could go back and change...

Elisheva Liss
Aug 11, 20193 min read


Please DON'T Fake It Till You Make It
Several years ago, I had been invited to an event that also featured a talk for kallah teachers, giving by a woman who trains them. At...

Elisheva Liss
Jul 8, 20195 min read


"Do You Ever Just Cuddle?" A Powerful Tip For Marital Intimacy Improvement
“Do You Ever Just Cuddle?” Yael’s arms are folded across her chest, and her legs tightly crossed as she describes her frustration: “I...

Elisheva Liss
Jun 13, 20193 min read


Spousal Hygiene - An Awkward Problem
Shani prefaces her disclosure with discomfort: “This is not an easy thing to discuss. But it’s an issue for me. It has to do with...

Elisheva Liss
Apr 27, 20195 min read


Not Attracted to Her Spouse: Part 2 Some Answers to Your Questions
My recent blog post “I’m Not Attracted to my Spouse” has attracted significantly more views, shares, and responses in its first week than...

Elisheva Liss
Feb 19, 20196 min read


I'm Not Attracted to My Spouse
Raizy, a soft-spoken 24 year old graphic designer, shifted in her seat, hesitant to share her next words. I waited, while she formulated...

Elisheva Liss
Feb 11, 20197 min read


Trouble In the Bedroom: Marital Sexual Problems and How We Can Help
Every year around this time, I wonder if this will be the year I try and “do something about it.” These are the weeks we call Shovevim...

Elisheva Liss
Jan 6, 20196 min read


What if My B’show Was Wrong
What if my b’show didn’t work? This post will undoubtedly elicit strong reactions from readers on both sides of this issue. I want to...

Elisheva Liss
Jan 3, 20195 min read


Could We Please Stop Telling Young Women that Marrying a Yeshiva Guy Is the Only Way to Get a Good Husband
This will be a short, not-so-sweet, but to-the-point post (bordering on rant). To some, what I’m about to say might be obvious, but to...

Elisheva Liss
Nov 26, 20182 min read


The Pros and Cons of Scheduled Sex Dates
“About how often would you guys say you are physically intimate?” This question is part of my standard couple intake session, even if the...

Elisheva Liss
Jun 25, 20187 min read


Women Who Hate the Niddah Laws
Sima had ostensibly done everything “right”. She was a prototypical “aidel maidel”- a respectful daughter, a helpful sister, a caring...

Elisheva Liss
May 28, 20185 min read


Choosing to Remain in an Imperfect Marriage
Leah closes her eyes and pauses for a moment, then swallows. I’ve come to recognize this subtlety as a cue that something deeply personal...

Elisheva Liss
May 23, 20185 min read


Intimacy vs. Sex
The well-groomed young couple settled into the matching navy, velvet club chairs in my office, and glanced at one another. After a beat,...

Elisheva Liss
May 5, 20184 min read


She Secretly Wished Her Husband Would Die
Shaindy’s eyes filled before she lowered them to examine her lap. She had been feeling stuck and hopeless in her marriage for several...

Elisheva Liss
Apr 30, 20185 min read


On Touching Your Wife: A Guide For Perplexed Husbands
Elisha and Ariella are a charismatic couple in their early 30s, with a frisky toddler, and a baby on the way. They generally treat each...

Elisheva Liss
Apr 16, 20185 min read
She Was Told Never Say No to Your Husband
Miriam and Chaim had been married for just over ten years, and was happily and busily raising their brood of five lively children, when...

Elisheva Liss
Dec 13, 20176 min read


Why Are There So Many More Divorces Nowadays?
It’s a magnificent summer night- 75 perfect degrees, and I’m walking over a local scenic bridge to the beach, with a close friend from...

Elisheva Liss
Dec 2, 20176 min read


Sexual Abuse with No Abuser
Beila and Sruly (pseudonyms) are a charming couple in their 20’s. They were referred by Beila’s private therapist, for an unconsummated...

Elisheva Liss
Nov 13, 20177 min read
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