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A Lesson about Intimacy Featuring: Queen Esther, Achashverosh, Consent, and "Dead-Fishing"
Trigger Warning: This post deals with explicit and psychologically raw topics. The Talmud (Sanhedrin 74b)questions how Queen Esther could...

Elisheva Liss
Mar 6, 20233 min read
What I Wish New Husbands Could Say to their New Brides
This document is meant to be used by husbands-to-be, in both an educational capacity and as a springboard for spousal communication. It’s...

Elisheva Liss
Feb 18, 20236 min read


Education without soul
Originally published: Feb 2017 Leah [pseudonym] is a 21 year old assistant preschool teacher in a beis yaakov school and part time...

Elisheva Liss
Feb 16, 20234 min read
He was both happy and horrified
You know that feeling of scary relief? Like when you very narrowly miss being in what could have been a terrible car accident? Or almost fall down a flight of stairs, but catch yourself at the last minute? Or you wake up from a nightmare, and dramatically exhale when you realize it’s not real? It’s an interesting phenomenon, this particular form of gratitude. On the one hand- you’re so happy about what didn’t happen. And also, a little freaked out about what almost did. And/

Elisheva Liss
Feb 7, 20233 min read
Please don't pressure your spouse to "get fit"
*This first appeared as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times* Dear Elisheva, This message probably makes me sounds like a shallow,...

Elisheva Liss
Feb 7, 20237 min read
How do I make friends as a grown up?
*This originally appeared in the Five Towns Jewish Times State of Mind column* Dear Elisheva, What I’m struggling with feels more...

Elisheva Liss
Jan 4, 20237 min read
"Am I a Bais Yaakov Lesbian?"
Chani was 20 years old when she presented for therapy. The official referral was “anxiety about dating,” but when she began to share, it...

Elisheva Liss
Dec 13, 20229 min read
"We feel more like roommates than spouses"
This was originally published as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times Dear Elisheva, My husband and I had discussed this when we were...

Elisheva Liss
Dec 1, 20227 min read
Influencer Anxiety
Tali is a mom blogger. She entertains her audience by chronicling the daily details of her regular family life on social media. Sometimes...

Elisheva Liss
Nov 21, 20226 min read
"My prayers weren't answered"
Recently, I tweeted the following: "Please don’t tell people that if they pray hard enough, they’ll get what they want. And please,...

Elisheva Liss
Oct 20, 20225 min read
10 Ideas of What Not to Comment on when Spending Time with Extended Family (or Other Humans):
When families get together in clans, for holidays, celebrations, or other occasions, sometimes interactions that are well-meaning can...

Elisheva Liss
Oct 7, 20223 min read
Freaked Out About Yom Kippur
*This post was originally published as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times.* Dear Elisheva, My problem is on a low simmer most of...

Elisheva Liss
Sep 29, 20227 min read
A Total Eclipse of my Son
*This essay was written five years ago* Will the two-dimensional cardboard and plastic “glasses” we borrowed from our friends really be...

Elisheva Liss
Aug 30, 20223 min read
Anxiety and Elul
Tami, a motivated college student, sought help to deal with her test taking anxiety. She describes her symptoms: “I just get so nervous...

Elisheva Liss
Aug 29, 20223 min read
"My daughter blames me for her marriage problems"
*This post was originally published as a State of Mind column in the Five Towns Jewish Times* Dear Elisheva, My family is in a...

Elisheva Liss
Aug 28, 20227 min read
Tu B'Av's Dark Back Story
Can you smell love in the air? (That might just be your neighbor’s bbq grill. Go ahead and ask them to toss a few extra dogs on for you.)...

Elisheva Liss
Aug 12, 20222 min read
"What if I never have a happy marriage?"
*This is an excerpt from one of my schmoozeletter emails.* One of the more painful categories of work we do is talking with people who ...

Elisheva Liss
Aug 11, 20224 min read
"What's the Point of Sex Anyway?"
It usually happens some time in the middle of a session. We’ll be discussing a couple’s intimate life, and I can see the consternation...

Elisheva Liss
Jul 26, 20224 min read
Was My Kid Brainwashed in Seminary?
*This originally appeared as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times Dear Elisheva, Our oldest daughter just returned home from her year...

Elisheva Liss
Jul 20, 20227 min read
Fireworks and Fireflies
“He’s smarter than I am now…” The thought darts through my mind from time to time, punctuating our evolving conversations. My almost 17...

Elisheva Liss
Jun 15, 20225 min read
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