"We feel more like roommates than spouses"
This was originally published as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times Dear Elisheva, My husband and I had discussed this when we were...
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Elisheva Liss
- May 8, 2022
- 2 min
An Intimacy Dilemma
The following is a conversation that comes up a lot with my couples in therapy: Me: So what would you say are the challenges you're...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jul 3, 2021
- 3 min
"If You Really Loved Me...
“Do you know what it’s like to live with someone for six years and not even once have them initiate physical intimacy?” he asks. “Well,...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jun 4, 2021
- 4 min
Fighting about Whether to Have a Baby
How do you decide when to start a family? How many kids to have? When to stop having kids? Even if we knew exactly how many kids we hoped...
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Elisheva Liss
- Apr 28, 2021
- 6 min
Wives, Please Don't Surrender
(This post is adapted from a special edition schmoozeletter.) Last week, I posted what seems to have been a polarizing opinion on social...
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Elisheva Liss
- Apr 21, 2021
- 2 min
Why Saying: "Divorce is not an Option" Can Actually Hurt Marriages
Were you taught to believe that “divorce” is a curse word? That we don’t even say the “d” word? When I was a young, idealistic grad...
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Elisheva Liss
- Apr 6, 2021
- 2 min
Sex Is NOT Supposed to Hurt!
This will be a short, but I believe, very important post: One of the many awful results of inadequate, misinformed, or nonexistent sex...
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Elisheva Liss
- Mar 8, 2021
- 5 min
“Why Won’t My Wife Dress Up for Me?”
Some men say it with embarrassment, others with indignance or frustration, and still others in defeat: “I’m not trying to be demanding or...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jan 16, 2021
- 3 min
Sex and Pizza
I really, really like pizza- it’s probably my favorite meal. In my neighborhood we have about half a dozen different pizza shops. My...
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Elisheva Liss
- Dec 11, 2020
- 5 min
"My Husband's 'Zera L'vatala' Will Be My Fault"
“I was taught that my husband’s purity and holiness are basically my responsibility. As long as we can ‘be together,’ that saves him from...
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Elisheva Liss
- Dec 2, 2020
- 2 min
"How Often Are You Supposed to 'Be Intimate'?"
Have you ever wondered how often people have sex? (I purposely used the nebulously awkward euphemism “be intimate” in the title because...
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Elisheva Liss
- Oct 29, 2020
- 3 min
Is it Possible to Create Attraction Where There is None?
For so many couples, this is their million-dollar question. Hope for their relationship, for their future, hinges on the answer....
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Elisheva Liss
- Oct 18, 2020
- 2 min
Separation Is Not Always "Step One to a Divorce"
Couples therapy is intense work. Back in grad school, I had a professor say: “We’re not in the business of saving marriages. We’re in the...
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Elisheva Liss
- Aug 16, 2020
- 4 min
Your Body May Have Responded to the Abuse, BUT That Doesn’t Mean You Wanted It
Trigger warning: This post deals with sensitive topics relating to sexual abuse trauma. Ho-kay. This is not really my lane. I don’t treat...
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Elisheva Liss
- Jun 4, 2020
- 5 min
What If You Cheated on Your Spouse?
An Infidelity Dilemma The following story was shared with me by an acquaintance who: Is not a therapy client of mine Specifically asked...
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Elisheva Liss
- Feb 9, 2020
- 3 min
Better Prep For Wedding Night and Beyond
More Shovevim thoughts on enhancing marital intimacy: Something I have struggled with for a few years now is wanting to create and share...
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Elisheva Liss
- Feb 3, 2020
- 3 min
Totally Grossed Out By Private Parts
Please Note: This post contains explicit content, is for mature readers only, and may be triggering for survivors of trauma. Fay and her...
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Elisheva Liss
- Feb 2, 2020
- 4 min
The Problem with Religious Sexuality Education
As many of you know, one of the most important aspects of the work we do with couples and individuals, is treating the results and...
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Elisheva Liss
- Sep 18, 2019
- 3 min
Ballad of the Secretly Burnt Out Kollel Wife
“I’m so happy and grateful- his Rebbe said he’s a meyuchad, a lamdan, really something special.” “I just want to do whatever is best for...
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Elisheva Liss
- Aug 12, 2019
- 3 min
Consent For Touch - Even With A Spouse
You know that feeling where you finish a conversation, and then a little later, mentally review it and wish you could go back and change...
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