*This originally appeared as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times" Dear Elisheva, I’m struggling with something affecting my marriage,...

This was originally published as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times Dear Elisheva, My husband and I had discussed this when we were...

The following is a conversation that comes up a lot with my couples in therapy: Me: So what would you say are the challenges you're...

“Do you know what it’s like to live with someone for six years and not even once have them initiate physical intimacy?” he asks. “Well,...

How do you decide when to start a family? How many kids to have? When to stop having kids? Even if we knew exactly how many kids we hoped...

(This post is adapted from a special edition schmoozeletter.) Last week, I posted what seems to have been a polarizing opinion on social...

Were you taught to believe that “divorce” is a curse word? That we don’t even say the “d” word? When I was a young, idealistic grad...

This will be a short, but I believe, very important post: One of the many awful results of inadequate, misinformed, or nonexistent sex...

Some men say it with embarrassment, others with indignance or frustration, and still others in defeat: “I’m not trying to be demanding or...

I really, really like pizza- it’s probably my favorite meal. In my neighborhood we have about half a dozen different pizza shops. My...

“I was taught that my husband’s purity and holiness are basically my responsibility. As long as we can ‘be together,’ that saves him from...

Have you ever wondered how often people have sex? (I purposely used the nebulously awkward euphemism “be intimate” in the title because...

For so many couples, this is their million-dollar question. Hope for their relationship, for their future, hinges on the answer....

Couples therapy is intense work. Back in grad school, I had a professor say: “We’re not in the business of saving marriages. We’re in the...

Trigger warning: This post deals with sensitive topics relating to sexual abuse trauma. Ho-kay. This is not really my lane. I don’t treat...

An Infidelity Dilemma The following story was shared with me by an acquaintance who: Is not a therapy client of mine Specifically asked...

More Shovevim thoughts on enhancing marital intimacy: Something I have struggled with for a few years now is wanting to create and share...

Please Note: This post contains explicit content, is for mature readers only, and may be triggering for survivors of trauma. Fay and her...

As many of you know, one of the most important aspects of the work we do with couples and individuals, is treating the results and...

“I’m so happy and grateful- his Rebbe said he’s a meyuchad, a lamdan, really something special.” “I just want to do whatever is best for...