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"I Believe with Imperfect Faith"
What do you say when there’s nothing to say? The email request from the editor to write about the only thing on most of our minds came in...

Elisheva Liss
Oct 11, 20234 min read
Some Bad Parts
What a jarring wake up call. Last week, I was reading the book “No Bad Parts” by Dr. Richard Schwartz. I chose it intentionally for this...

Elisheva Liss
Oct 11, 20234 min read
Men are sometimes surprised to learn this about pleasuring
Trigger warning: this post will be more explicit than usual. (It's excerpted from one of the schmoozeletter emails) Often, when working...

Elisheva Liss
Sep 27, 20234 min read
What if you can't just "forgive and forget?"
Dear Elisheva, Every year around this time I struggle with the idea of asking and granting what feels like lip-service forgiveness. As...

Elisheva Liss
Sep 6, 20236 min read
Avinu Malkeinu: A Prayer-Inspired Essay on Parenthood
Parented by G-d, and Parenting G-d’s Children One of the most challenging, if unoriginal, theological struggles for me personally has...

Elisheva Liss
Aug 28, 20238 min read
Can my daughter be my best friend?
Dear Elisheva, I’m a 43 year old wife, mom, and professional. I have a happy marriage, amazing kids, and a satisfying job. My oldest...

Elisheva Liss
Aug 9, 20236 min read
How can someone go from hating sexual activity to enjoying it?
TW: This post references sexual trauma. “What’s the most common problem you see in couples?” someone asked me this weekend. Therapists...

Elisheva Liss
Jul 20, 20235 min read
Will my kids be spoiled?
Dear Elisheva, My husband and I were raised very differently, in a lot of ways. One way that comes up deeply for us, in our parenting, is...

Elisheva Liss
Jul 10, 20236 min read
Is Using P-rnography Considered Cheating on a Partner?
Let’s consider this changed-to-protect-writer’s-identity question, as a springboard to address some issues that arise for couples around...

Elisheva Liss
Jul 5, 20239 min read
The Unconsummated Couple
The Unconsummated Couple They present for therapy with so much shame, sometimes blaming themselves, sometimes each other, or just one of...

Elisheva Liss
Jul 2, 20234 min read
The Nation that Wanted to Die
“We wish we had died! We wish we had died!” Cry out the people who personally experienced miraculous salvation. “If only we had died in...

Elisheva Liss
Jun 15, 20232 min read
Disappointed in a Spouse
*This originally appeared as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times" Dear Elisheva, I’m struggling with something affecting my marriage,...

Elisheva Liss
Jun 14, 20236 min read
Prepping Kids for Summer Sexual Safety
*This appeared as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times* Dear Elisheva, We are sending our son to sleepaway camp this summer for the...

Elisheva Liss
May 13, 20237 min read
10 Tips for Preempting/ Avoiding Family Drama over the Holidays/Yom Tov
The yomim tovim / Jewish holidays are often “busy season” for Orthodox therapists. In our communities, where there’s a profound emphasis...

Elisheva Liss
Apr 4, 20236 min read
Why are they doing this to me?"
*This was originally a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times* Dear Elisheva, My problem comes up mostly around Shabbos and Yom Tov family...

Elisheva Liss
Apr 3, 20237 min read
"Why Won't My In-laws Support Us?"
*This was originally a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times* Dear Elisheva, My wife and I have been married for almost three years, and...

Elisheva Liss
Mar 8, 20235 min read
A Lesson about Intimacy Featuring: Queen Esther, Achashverosh, Consent, and "Dead-Fishing"
Trigger Warning: This post deals with explicit and psychologically raw topics. The Talmud (Sanhedrin 74b)questions how Queen Esther could...

Elisheva Liss
Mar 6, 20233 min read
What I Wish New Husbands Could Say to their New Brides
This document is meant to be used by husbands-to-be, in both an educational capacity and as a springboard for spousal communication. It’s...

Elisheva Liss
Feb 18, 20236 min read


Education without soul
Originally published: Feb 2017 Leah [pseudonym] is a 21 year old assistant preschool teacher in a beis yaakov school and part time...

Elisheva Liss
Feb 16, 20234 min read
He was both happy and horrified
You know that feeling of scary relief? Like when you very narrowly miss being in what could have been a terrible car accident? Or almost fall down a flight of stairs, but catch yourself at the last minute? Or you wake up from a nightmare, and dramatically exhale when you realize it’s not real? It’s an interesting phenomenon, this particular form of gratitude. On the one hand- you’re so happy about what didn’t happen. And also, a little freaked out about what almost did. And/

Elisheva Liss
Feb 7, 20233 min read
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